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Time Heals

me in the ER

In the ER, 23 April 2011

“Mishaps are like knives,
that either serve us or cut us,
as we grasp them by the blade or the handle.”
~ James Russell Lowell

I have grown to appreciate that quote during the past twelve months. I can hardly believe it has been a year since my “mishap”.

The photo over there was me, one year ago today — long around 10pm or so — in the emergency room. It was a Saturday night, the night before Easter as a matter of fact. I was baking a variety of things to take to the family dinner the next day. A double-chocolate bundt cake was in the oven; my wheat bread was completing its second rise. While I was waiting for the cake to finish the last few minutes of baking, I hopped on Facebook and updated my status about what a perfect day it all was.

You can read the details in my post from a few days after the accident. But in the course of just a few minutes, chaos erupted like the Pyrex glass pan that I shattered.

So here I am, exactly one year later. Two hand surgeries, three months (plus) off work to heal, eight months of physical therapy, a stunning total in medical bills, and a new appreciation for excellent health care and insurance.

It could have been far worse than simply slicing through both tendons in my right-hand ring finger. I could have lost the finger, or even just the use of it. I could have hit and damaged the nerves, which my hand surgeon still calls a miracle that I didn’t damage any permanently.

I had excellent care from a phenomenal surgical team and hand tendon specialists managing my physical therapy. They quickly became a part of my daily life, and I owe my recovery to their care.

I had incredible support from family and friends. For all those that drove me and my husband to and fro, made dinners and brought food and entertainment, who sat with us, laughed and cried with us, and were simply there whenever we needed something, and even when we didn’t, there are no words to capture the depth of my thanks. There is, literally, no way we could have survived without each of you.

One year later, time has healed. Not perfectly, not as much as I would like, but more than I thought during those frenetic minutes and long hours sitting in the ER wondering what was coming.

And to those who shared the journey with me, whether near or far, in word, deed, or prayer, I once again say “Thank you!”

Gratitude is the memory of the heart. ~ Jean Baptiste Massieu

[Note: This post is #20 of 26 of the April A-to-Z Challenge. Please see the button at the right of the page for more information.]


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The Blizzard of 1978

Blizzard of 1978 - Dayton, OH (Photo courtesy of Dayton Daily News Archive, Special Collections and Archives, Wright State University)

The snow doesn’t give a soft white damn whom it touches. ~ e.e. cummings

If you were anywhere in the Miami Valley in 1978, you most likely remember very well what you were (or were not) doing 34 years ago today! On January 26-27, 1978, the region was hit with a major blizzard, one of three that struck the region in January and February that year. Over twelve inches of snow fell in 24-hours on January 26th alone!

Take a look at some of the terrific pictures captured by photographers from the Dayton Daily News, showing the effects of the blizzard, at our Dayton Daily News blog!

I, for one, am very grateful that all the rain of the past few days has not been snow instead — or we could have looked a lot like those blizzard photographs!


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Time, Well Spent

“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” ~ Antoine De Saint-Exupéry

Today is our anniversary. When I wrote those words last year, this blog was only a few weeks old. It was our 13th anniversary, and I optimistically called the post, “Lucky Number 13.” Little did I know or suspect the happenings of the year which followed that post.

Both of us suffered at least one major medical issue. As noted in those early posts, my husband had a serious infection in his leg in August and September. He followed that up with a double retinal hemorrhage in December, which required surgery in January and several weeks off work. And if you’ve followed the blog for bit, you know of my “fun” in April of this year, when I severed both tendons in my right-hand ring finger, which required surgery, two months off work, and several months of intense physical therapy. There were a few other challenges as well, but those certainly seemed the focus of our attention.

Life went on around and by us, though. Good friends came through with anything and everything we needed, from rides to food to simple acts of kindness and friendship which brought no end of cheer to those rough days. Work continued with days both easy and difficult.

We’ve learned to make some changes in our lives, do things a bit differently, either by necessity or choice. And, to be honest, we are (or will be) the better for them. Doesn’t make them easier, though.

But “Lucky Number 13” I can’t say was all that lucky.

Except, that it was.

The health issues can and are being dealt with, as my husband continues to receive periodic shots in his eye to help the healing. (Yes, you read that right — shots *in* his eye. He’s the bravest man I know!) I’m gearing up for a second hand surgery, and I’ll find out in few weeks when that will be. We both have jobs, with excellent insurance, and in this economy, that trumps nearly anything else. And for all these things and so much more, we are truly lucky.

But most of all, especially in a year like the one just past, we have each other. We both consider ourselves very lucky to have married our best friend, the person we most enjoy spending time with, the person each of us would move heaven and earth to make happy.

So lucky or not, our year together was time well spent. And today, of all days, I know just how very lucky I am to be able to say “Happy Anniversary” to the love of my life.

Here’s to a calmer 14th…..


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“A Living Petition”

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. at the March on Washington, August 28, 1963. Photographer: Francis Miller, Courtesy of Life Images

Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred. We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline. ~ Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., “I Have a Dream” August 28, 1963

Today marks the 48th anniversary of the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom. Recently, in processing one of our newest collections, MS-434 The Jewish Federation of Greater Dayton Records, one of our graduate students, Jeremy Katz, discovered an original program from the March on Washington in August 1963.

Long-time civil rights activist A. Philip Randolph had originally proposed a march in 1962. However, it took the leaders of the major civil rights organizations working together to create one of the largest peaceful demonstrations in U.S. history.

Program for March on Washington, August 28, 1963

Front of program for March on Washington, August 28, 1963. Courtesy of Special Collections and Archives, Wright State University Libraries, MS-434 Jewish Federation of Greater Dayton Records

On August 28, 1963, more than 250,000 people came to Washington D.C. to attend the March. Following a rally at the Washington Monument, marked by appearances from several celebrities and musicians, the participants marched along the mile-long area of the National Mall towards the Lincoln Memorial. The three-hour program which followed included Marian Anderson singing the National Anthem; remarks from A. Philip Randolph, Mrs. Medgar Evers, Rabbi Uri Miller, and Roy Wilkins; and a selection from Mahalia Jackson. Following the march and program, the day’s scheduled activities ended in a meeting between the leaders of the march and President Kennedy at the White House.

Inside pages for program from March on Washington

Statement and goals in program, March on Washington, August 28, 1963, Courtesy of Special Collections and Archives, Wright State University Libraries, MS-434 Jewish Federation of Greater Dayton

As the organizers planned this gathering, they issued a statement which was also printed on the back of the program outlining the ideas and hopes for the march. “As such, the Washington March is a living petition –in the flesh– of the scores of thousands of citizens of both races who will be present from all parts of our country.” Calling for a peaceful, self-disciplined gathering, the organizers asked participants “to resist provocations to disorder and violence” so that “no one in our own ranks, however, enthusiastic, shall be the spark for disorder.” The back of the program also included a listing of the demands being sought as a result of the demonstration.

Without question, the highlight of the day was the event listed on the program as #16, Remarks, by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. You can listen to the audio of the speech via the King Institute website.

Do you think the result –a peaceful demonstration– would be the same today?

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Monday Moments: Blogoversary!

Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop to look around once in a while you could miss it. ~From the movie Ferris Bueller’s Day Off

Isn’t that the truth? The old adage that “time flies” really does hold true.

One of the guys that works in the same building I do once spent part of a lunch-hour explaining his theory of time and relativity to me. He thinks the passage of time is all a matter of fractions. His theory goes something like this. When you’re four or five, you haven’t lived a long time. The events in your life seem easy to remember because at that point in your life, they take up a larger percentage of that time. A year can be one-fourth or one-fifth of everything you’ve known. Even at ten, a whole year only takes up one-tenth of your entire life. That’s a goodly amount. Once you get into your thirties, forties and beyond, the percentages sky-rocket. At forty, for example, one year of your life is really only one-fortieth of your existence.

Now I’ve never been a math-wizard, and especially with fractions or story problems, but he made a certain kind of sense. Maybe time flies because there is always more to remember, to add to our memory.

It’s hard to believe that this past weekend marked the first anniversary of Second Memory — a blogoversary! The past year has indeed gone by quite quickly.

And with that celebration in mind, there’s no better time to say “Thanks!” to all of you. Whether you have read just a few words, several posts, or been around since the beginning. Whether you lurk or comment. Whether we’ve gotten to know each other or will likely never meet at all.

You’ve given of your time, you’ve spent moments here with me, you’ve taken time to comment or email, tweet or post on Facebook. And for each of those things, but especially for choosing to spend a bit of your time here on the blog, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve made this year a fun experience, and I look forward to another year.

So for your Monday Moment this week, pick up something a little sweet and join the celebration!

And thanks, so much, for stopping by.


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